Self-sovereignty and the power of standing strong as one.

29 November 2021

We are inherently social creatures, built on reciprocity, connection,  and threads of love that weave us so finely together. By the same token,  we find a unique beauty and strength through solitude. Our time spent  alone is where we discover the underlying fibers of our inner power and  grace; it is where we can reconnect to our own warmth and light.

Alone  time is not to be confused with being lonely — we could actually be in a  room full of people and still feel the misty shades of loneliness.  Loneliness is a feeling born from a sense of lack within; solitude is a  choice that has its own gifts to share. There is a freedom that arises  from periods of isolation; the freedom to be perfectly you.

The happy solitude of the lone wolf: The power of standing strong as one

Loneliness is the poverty of self; solitude is the richness of self

– May Sarton

By  seeking love outside of ourselves, we lose sight of the love we have  within; we are calibrated to find the missing piece — or our other half —  yet we are already whole. Through seeking acceptance from others, we  diminish our own sense of purpose. And through searching for our dreams  to be realized by the touch of another’s hand, we forget that we are  innately the creators of all we desire to nurture.

We fear being  alone and standing as one, yet it can forge an entirely new pattern to  our life. How can we ever know the true wonder that lies within the  cells, hidden chambers, and fabric of our own soul if we are too afraid  to be alone with it? Alone time is when we take charge of opening our  own parachute. It is when we learn that we can fly solo when we need to.  When we bravely tap into our own resolve, we find there is less to fear  within ourselves and others.

Detachment is not that you should own nothing, but that nothing should own you.

– Ali Ibn Abi Talib

Wolves  know their strengths both inside and outside of the pack. They endure  and heal their own wounds, trust their own judgement, and grow stronger  when left to their own devices. They don’t seek external permission to  survive, exist, or to independently walk their desired path.

The  beauty of a ‘lone wolf’ mentality is found in the ability to be able to  detach when needed and be a greater version of yourself for it. It is  realizing that your own measure, value, and drive for fulfillment relies  solely on you; and that this is where all your inner power flourishes.  We may be prompted or drawn into times of seclusion when we feel badly  let down, lost, betrayed, or disenchanted with what surrounds us. Rather  than deny, fear, or fight against being alone, we can look for the gems  and riches within it. We can stop hiding and discover the priceless  value of ourselves.

The wolves knew when it was time to stop looking for what they’d lost, to focus instead on what was yet to come.

– Jodi Picoult, Lone Wolf

When  we can stand strong on our own, then we naturally stand stronger and  more beautifully with others. In appreciation of our own charming spirit  we can cherish another; in strengthening our own inner radiance, we  become a beacon that encourages others to blaze theirs; and in finding  our own truth, we come to treasure honesty and authenticity all around  us.

We may never know the full veracity of what we hold within;  our downfall is that we frequently underestimate everything that makes  us so special and innately flawless. Our strength lies in realizing that  we cannot find our gifts in others — we can only seek them out  ourselves.  

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